A priest had testified that interesting. He recalled that during the teenage years, each time to buy chicken for her, she always bought the chest. During courtship, he saw his wife always eat the chest, so he must assume his wife liked the chicken breast. After a dozen years of running, when they were opening themselves to each other, then he knows that in fact she most likes the chicken thighs. Then why did his wife used to always choose the chest? Chest turned out he chose because she knew her husband liked the thigh. A dozen years of running, but still there are things that have not known about a spouse. This can happen to anyone, including you and me.
Often we assume that what we like must also favored by our spouses, our children, family, friends or others. There are many fathers who think that if they are able to meet the material needs of the children or his wife, he has been engaged in the function as an exemplary father. And perhaps on many occasions, his wife and children require much more attention and attendance rather than the fulfillment of material needs. As long as I teach and interact with many people throughout my life, I came to one conclusion: God created human beings is different. Both of the properties, behavior, hobbies, hobby, and so forth. That is, what I like, not necessarily someone else likes. What is the best for me, not necessarily best for others.
Lord Jesus teaches that: “a new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another, just as I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34). Then on another occasion: “This is my commandment, That ye love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:12) and “This is my commandment unto you: Love one another.” (John 15:17). JESUS is the command to love others, like the Lord Jesus himself has loved us. How did Jesus love us? Lord Jesus loves us tremendously, to sacrifice Himself to die on the cross for us all not perish but have everlasting life. Love others as Jesus loved us what would make us have to start thinking of loving others in accordance with what they need / want, and then try to provide exactly that. Not by us, but according to them. Because everyone is different needs / wants it.
In these circumstances, it takes an in-depth understanding of the “language of love” so we can reach the hearts of people around us. What I mean by the language of love is something we give to someone else who is based in accordance with what they expect, not according to what we like. There are 5 things that usually becomes the “language of love” for people: 1. PujianOrang words that have a language of love is usually going to be happy or feel loved if they get positive words, such as support, praise, recognition and others. If they get the opposite, such as insults, foul language, abusive and so on, will be something very menyakitkan.2. At this BersamaJenis will feel loved if their loved one would take the time to listen to them, talking heart to heart, the streets and sebagainya.3. HadiahTipe like this would be very happy if they received a gift, even the simplest sekalipun.4. BantuanOrang with love like this type of language will be very happy if their loved one would take the time to help them, despite being very busy. That would mean a lot to mereka.5. SentuhanTapping on the shoulder, or for a husband and wife or parents on the child’s: hug, kiss or holding of hands, it could mean a very big for them.
Different people, different language of love. Did you know the language of love from your spouse, your children, your friends, and your parents? In order to fulfill Christ to love people just as He loves us, we must know what they most need, just as Jesus knew exactly what we most need. Despite everything that we give in good faith based on a genuine love there is still good, there are times when outpouring of love we will not give the maximum if we are wrong. Sometimes without knowing the language of love from the people we love, we may fail in expressing our love for them. In fact, can lead to quarrels, because we feel our giving is not appreciated, they feel ignored and others. If Jesus loves us to provide the best for us, because He knew exactly what we need, it’s time we give the best also for the people we love, by knowing in advance what they most need in accordance with the language of their love. Let’s get to know the language love each, and let it be known love with the maximum.
Identify the language of love from the people we love